Wednesday, December 2, 2009

One day I was joking around with a friend and asked her how do I patao a girl? She replied in a typical bollywoodiya style...ladki "ladko ki adao se pat-ti hai". I smiled within, and told myself....don't know what I said but i was amused by the reply.
I thought what should I do to....
I wont use the word "patao" ...I'll simply say how should I win a girl's heart.

I don't know whether I am correct or wrong but this is my way of winning heart of a girl.

okay so to start with make her feel special, the point is women around her have been compromising almost everytime..so...don't let them compromise..if she does it once..you do it twice..make her feel counted, let her know how special you consider her.
Respect her for the person she is, not everyone is perfect..she may have the imperfections..live with it...don't try to change her..if you don't like something about her..there are always good ways to tell. Respect her opinions it may differ from you..keep your male ego aside. Talking of ego,,keep it with yourself don't show..if she shows ego..she knows it...she will change it someday... but don't compromise your self-esteem girls hate it.
Act like a father..give her freedom..when she is down give her confidence when she is flying high let her fly but you keep your legs on the ground...let her take the limelight...stay 2 steps behind her (did someone get why i was 200 xp points behind :P ), if she is happy let her share her happiness with her friends and family first..then later yourself...and if she is sad..make sure she has enough confidence in you that she shares with you.
Love her, trust her, don't be skeptical of her..coz if she loves you she really won't look at other guys. Listen to her, go to movies with her....Don't be possessive of her, give her own space...after-all she has her friends and family which has been there when she didn't even know you. Respect her friends and family even if you don't like them..they mean a lot to her if not you.(How would you feel if she says bad things about your mom or best friend? )

Surprise her, give her small small gifts for no reason, make her smile all the time, ask her to do small things. They mean a LOT and have big effect. Praise her she likes it, don't go overboard its kinda creepy. Girls when pissed, normally say bad things about themselves, make her feel important and let her know what she means to you.

Now very important point, if she is pissed and even if doesn't say anything on when you're with her or phone or on chat..stay with her.. she needs your support...she might ask you to leave..keep telling her i don't mind the silence..but ill stay...she'll probably think of you as soon as she gets in good mood. If something about her is bugging you look for an ideal time to tell her, girls can be unpredictable.

You must know its not about living the moment with her, its about enjoying the whole journey....called life. In the end I will end up with this beautiful video




Anything you want to add, you can write it in comments.

Friday, June 5, 2009

Rover wanderer nomad vagabond call me what you will..!!

well been long since i wrote..today i will not be formal in my writing will just write what i feel like and how i feel like. Sometimes you must just give a free hand to yourself.. free hand do do what your heart wants. that gives the immense happiness anyway.
Its been a while since I am living this monotonous life.. so kuch exciting cheez toh banti hai..
So, I have planned a trip...along with two of my school friends and two adrenaline junkies ...yeah there is nothing new in planning a trip but the difference is that we are not planning anything beforehand.
All we have is one way ticket to Delhi...after that no idea.. we might end up having lassi in Punjabi.. or Leh-Laddhakh or Himachal or may be Nepal haha.
Its a random trip.. we'll go abitrary where we want to go.. others will booze and i'll sit and wonder its beauty. The idea came to me and others separately strangely!! when we(Somi and I) discussed such a thing.. we became accomplice.. :D.. I agreed without thinking twice. And why? I dont know.. I dont care to find out...
I hate people, absolutely loathe and despise them... i hate society..I dont socialize..they're pretentious and selfish and mean.. most of us say this but they cant seem to go away from it.. and i want to go away from this for a few days...though most of those who know me would say i already stay away from this society![:D].. but hell i want to do soemthing else too.. i wanna experience life.. how is it for different people.. how hard it is for them.. how do they live off...
I just hope we have a great time learning from people, villages there and no we dont want to go to the cities there..I want to learn.. to enjoy and do some adventure..i want to live life.. its been enough with the stress, work, studies, career, tension, social status, relations...yeah meaningless, bons that are imaterial... girlfriend(as if I have any), parents ki scolding, TV, research, security, mall mien jaana, evening hangout, library ki book, heavy novels, cyclewaale ka sandwich, football transfers, ... to hell with them.
to hell with everyone of them. I want to be a smile guy for some days.
And I call this "Soul searching"

Monday, March 9, 2009

A preview of General Elections

General Elections are round the corner and I am nervous, as nervous as a reigning Member of Parliaments, Cabinet Ministers or the hopefuls. Not because I am one of those hopefuls, but because this election holds a lot of importance in terms of change in ideology and principles in the people of our India.
As a young individual, rather a teenager I was fortunate to witness the elections of 2004 where the whole world experienced the power of electoral democracy, people went out and voted out the government which was in a delusion of a cakewalk. Everyone from New York Times to Dainik Bhaskar commented, analyzed and (some) criticized unexpected change of power, and few went to the degree to frown on Indian democracy as a whole. This general election like any other is crucial in its own way, whether the politics of Aam Aadmi(common man) succeeded or not will be known only when an electorate of 600 million people will pass its judgment coming April.
I hereby put on paper some issues which I think would be most influential in deciding the outcome of the elections.


1. Inclusive growth: These issues are mainly related to the forgotten mass of the country: farmers, labors, small industry workers. The issue which was said to be the main reason for the UPA to come into power will be up against them now. We at this juncture are witnessing two India’s; one that is at the thriving and competing with the west, the other is fighting for its survival. Back then the “other” India came back with a vengeance showing the ones in the power that their idea of growth and prosperity is merely a delusion created by the AC walas and board rooms. India was not shining, farmers were killing themselves, and there was an enormous difference between the rich and poor; (for a thought you can take an example that five hundred rupees can mean food for 10 days for a person and for other it can mean money needed to get his hairdo done. Both having equal value in terms of voting rights.)
There are issues related to irrigation (too much dependency on monsoon), subsidies to foreign countries, dipping of supporting price of agriculture, etc are amongst the few.
I completely agree with the remark by Thomas L. Friedman that the world is getting flatter but I must add to it Sir, that benchmark for “Aam Aadmi” in India is far lower than what you have assessed.
Has this government been able to address this issue to provide a platform for the poor to be included in India’s growth story?
The answer to this question is quite complex, and frankly I don’t know!


2. Naxalism: Surprised? Those who have followed Indian social scene in the recent past must not be. Naxalism(or Maoists) was born and brought up in Indian society mainly due to social and economical inequality which I discussed in point #1. “The red revolution” they call it is increasing from strength to strength. Having serious effects on politics in 122 districts in 12 big states (an assessment made by Union Home Ministry) including Bihar, Jharkhand, West Bengal, Orissa, Andhra Pradesh, Chhattisgarh, Kerala, Tamil Nadu and Madhya Pradesh.
They don’t hesitate in using violence; and moreover their separatism has gained popular support because of continuous ignorance of the poor and the oppressed. They do “Aam Sabhas” and run parallel judiciary system (I have watched a documentary on them on one of the news channels). It is unclear to me how much effect they’re going to have on the elections but it is the second most important issue to deal with.


3. Caste combinations, social justice and reservations: This issue according to me would be more important than price rise and terrorism. It is a bitter truth of Indian society; casteism is still in our roots not just with the illiterates but with the educated ones too. Don’t we ask for ones surname after knowing his first name? You go to a village and you’ll find people are still insecure about them being oppressed by other castes. Dalits have always suffered at the hands of so called upper casts and sadly their condition if not deteriorated has not improved.
This sentiment has been fully exploited by ALL political parties not just one or two for instance, the MY formula of Bihar, Dalit politics across the nation or the Gurjar issue etc. Union HRD minister Arjun Singh played the reservation of OBC card, and how much benefits it will provide is there to be seen.


4. Price Rise: That is the main issue of vibrant middle class and the lower-middle class which has always been gaining voice and strength as the time goes by. Price of basic commodities has grown by a great deal, it may be due to external issues but Indian public does not care. All we need is control in prices of commodities basic needs.


5. Terrorism and social insecurity: I am afraid to go out, afraid to stand at public places. Whenever a find a bag unattended it scares me to death.
Aint this the story of most of us in India? The central government has failed in dealing with terrorism. True. A weak home minister and failure of intelligence is accountable. But it is also a fact that the only way to stop these attacks is general awareness and public taking its responsibility; people should be aware of their neighbors and their surroundings. There is little government can do.
So, how much it is going to affect the outcome of elections?


6. The role of middle class: They have always been accused of not voting in the elections and how are they gonna behave this term is still a puzzle. They hold significant value; their main issues comprises of infrastructure, basic living needs and price rise and if they come out in numbers and vote, they can be very decisive.




In the 2004 elections issues like Hindutva, Foreign origin were buried well and good. And in these elections if these issues are not instrumental then we can very well say India’s politics is going down to a right direction of development, harmony and prosperity of the poor.
One thing is certain in India, is that because of our diverse environment we cannot gauge the effect of any “wave”. Sampling of common sentiments, issues and effects is very tough a job. All the speculations, opinion polls, exit polls etc. are only for entertainment purpose and all will go down the bin once elections start.


So, whether you are a Member of Parliament, a cabinet Minister, a bureaucrat, a broker at Dalal Street, a cotton farmer in the outskirts of Nagpur, a factor worker in Kanpur, a student in Bhopal or a software engineer in Bangalore. Please use your power to vote!

Monday, January 19, 2009

I will always make you feel special

this poem was in the drafts for a few days now! Still crude, do let me know where I can improve!

Oh girl,
oh girl! Dont worry
because I am sorry
for not growing up with you.
Now I promise to hold, when you get old
and I will always make you feel special.

Oh baby,
oh baby! Dont haste
because I will not waste
this chance to be with you
come any despiar or struggle,
and I will always make you feel special

Oh girl,
Oh girl! Dont pretend
because I will understand
those feelings and desires unvocal
because I will always make you feel special.

My girl,
my girl! Dont cry
because I will try
try to make you smile.
Touches, caresses, hugs, kisses
to let you know
I am always here, for me you are special.

Saturday, January 17, 2009

A stranger in the world

As i stroll on the sidewalk
I see faces so blank, so obscure.
I ask this question
Am I stranger in the world?

Will you talk to me?
Will you understand me?
will you hold me?
Will you embrace me?
or Am I still a stranger in the world?

You came, you listened
you kissed, you hugged
you broke, you left.
For you,
I bacame a stranger in the world.

And now you want to come near
My heart is filled with nothing but fear
My mind is numb and flooded with secrets
But I am happy, I have no regrets
Because I am still a stranger in the world.

Friday, January 16, 2009

10 things To do; before I die.

I recently watched a wonderful movie Dasvidaniya of actor Vinay pathak. The story made me think, made me think of the the 10 things I want to do before I die. It was astonishing to see I could not complete a list of 10 things.





Whenever I meet friends instead of a normal "Hi" or "Hello" I would ask "did you watch Dasvidaniya?" If the answer comes "Yes" without thinking twice I would shoot the next question "okay to tell me the 10 things you want to do before you die?".. poor guys.. never talked about movies again :|
Well my list is still incomplete but I'm still deciding to jot it down:

1. To do a PhD... aah it feels so great to have a doctor with your name!

2. To make my parents do all the things which they compromised for me.... (every parent does and its the responsibility of a child to give it back. ).. possibly a Word tour :P

3. To go and watch FC Barcelona and Real Madrid at our Home stadium Camp Nou.


4. To watch a United Pink Floyd's performance.... I so wish that I'd be big enough to attend their Live - 8 performance.

5. To work for the people of my country; politically or socially.. whatever, I just want to work.

6. To tell her, it was not my fault.

rest... I am still figuring out.

till then laterzzzz
see ya

Saturday, January 10, 2009

A day in the life (of an engineer :P )

Exam is the essence of life I believe, or you can say I have been made to believe (I am still unsure though :P) and we taste this essence twice a year...

This post is an account of event that happened with me a day before my exam.. :P

Before telling you about it I must take an oath stating that all I am writing here is true to the best of my knowledge... and I do take responsibility of every consequence... i.e you might try this in your next exam and top the merit list. In that case I must be given special award for inspiration.

I woke up at 2 PM had my brunch (breakfast and lunch) and took up the herculean task of studying shivani. Before proceeding further I must tell you guys, it is bible of ever engineering students here in Bhopal, though some man not agree because there are infidels everywhere :P!! (take that topper!!).
Did Unit one with utmost concentration as if I am watching a suspense thriller of James Bond where he is surrounded by a batallion of Russians and wondering how dumb they can be. By the way to be james bond to me is mithun chatrborty of holly..... hey wait! I am writing about my exam. That is some concentration..!!!


My computer is always on.. and I saw one of my school friends online... he was in Hyderabad for some "International" conference.. ammaa khaan miyan hum log choti mote level dekhte hi nahi henge seedhe International!
after talking to him I realised bhai abhi 4 untis bhi hain... then I called up one of my friends' who always teaches me anything.. she caught me unit 2 and unit 3 on fone..
had dinner, took a walk, listened to some songs, etc etc...so by 10 PM I had done 1-2-3 so thot of revising them and clear my doubts. Dude, I too have doubts!! :P.then now another friend came online.. that too school friend.. saale ***** never let me study!! talked to him for a while, in fact quite a while.
then, called another friend she also teachers me everything :P... cleared my doubts revised 1-2-3 and did numericals which I always know I am never going to do them correctly in exam but try zaroor karna hai!!...all this was done by 1 AM.
Then at 1 Am started units 4 and which which were done by 3.. revised them by 4 listened to my fav song... and ...... Slept! :P
Phew..! That was a tiresome day..!! Im sure you guys can associate yourselves with this post..
Apologies for spelling mistakes...
Love ya all
take care
and do comment !!!